Hello Dear Friends,
As we move closer to 2020, many of us are looking back at 2019 and the ending of a decade. Planning for the future is important, but so is looking back on the journey. All your hard work has put you in a better place than when this year began. Be thankful and give yourself the credit you deserve.
But now with the holidays, many of you are forced to make uncomfortable decisions as boundaries are tested. While you might feel obligated to take part in family gatherings or attend parties, remember you are allowed to simply say no. This may mean breaking family traditions or routines, but your peace of mind is worth so much more.
You have worked hard to gain ground and put these boundaries in place. I encourage you to stand tall now and not entertain drama or negative energy of any kind this holiday season. While some situations will test your patience and resolve, stand your ground and keep firm on what you allow into your life. Don't overreact, but also don't give in.
Your attention and focus are your greatest powers. Use them wisely and don't allow yourself to be drawn into unnecessary drama or anything that doesn't add value to your life. Protect your energy and you will have a much more pleasant holiday experience and start 2020 from a calmer, more relaxed point-of-view.
If you need support, I'm here. Together we can define these boundaries and build your best, blissful life.
What is the Shadow Self?
It is the disowned parts of ourselves, usually developed in early childhood. It is also trauma that we as children, have no way to deal with or heal. Because these parts cannot be healed or eliminated they are repressed and live in our unconscious mind.
These traumas make up the unexamined and rejected parts of our personality. Every wonder why you seem to date the same type of person? Why you cannot get passed something from your past or why you are triggered by seemingly small actions of others? The answers lie in Shadow.
Until we make the effort to heal these parts of ourselves they will subtlety control our decisions and by default our lives.
Could you be an empath or a highly sensitive person?
Has anyone ever told you that you are too sensitive or too emotional? Do you feel drained when you spend time around certain folks? Do you seem to experience life differently from other people?
You could very well be a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) or an Empath. Contact me for a free one-on-one evaluation today to find out.
Are you ready for all things pumpkin? #Yippee!
October begins the Holiday season for so many people and life really gets crazy!
Remember to take your queues from Nature, as the days grow shorter - its time to slow down and turn your attention inwards.
Block out down time for yourself or you will end up burnt out before Christmas! If you are ready yo take your personal healing up a notch, we are counting down to the Shadow Work Course. You still have time to join us for this self-paced, online course - Read more about it here.
I'm pleased to announce a new Adult Coloring book of my Mandala designs was released by Serenity Reiki clinic. 36 new design to help you soothe your mind and release anger.
Have fun and heal as you color these mandalas!
Move into a meditative state as you calm your mind by coloring these one-of-a-kind shapes. These hand drawn, Reiki infused mandalas are a powerful tool in your self-care tool box.
Use them to slow down and shift your energy, as you let go angry thoughts and internal conflict. This and the other books are available at Amazon or you can order direct from me. For a limited time pay no shipping in the USA!
We often forget that we have choices. If things aren’t working out like you expected or you are unhappy with your current situation, you can always change your path.
I know it seems overly simplified, but we ALWAYS have a choice. We can change our personal path and change our lives.
Whatever situation you are in right now, if it doesn't fill your heart with joy, love, and inspiration, you have the ability to change. It can seem frightening at first, but you can have the life you dream about. Happiness is within your reach.
I know you have heard this before, but I’m gong to say it again; it is important that you avoid toxic people. I know you want to help everyone and you often see the best in people, but this is a serious warning. It’s not your job to fix, mend or heal everyone that crosses your path. You must set clear boundaries or these people will steal your energy, mess with your mental health and destroy your dreams.
In my new Empowered Empath course we take a long look at these types of people, set clear boundaries and work on healing the hurt toxic people have inflicted. If you would like to be on the waiting list for this massive course, sign up here. You can also read more about the course here.
In todays busy and stressful society most of us are overwhelmed and feel burned out. This is magnified when you are an empath. This can put a strain on your relationships, your career and of course your health. But the good news is there are few a simple tweaks you can put into your schedule that will make a huge impact on your stress levels. In this post I will share a few simple changes you can begin implementing today to bring more calmness and peace into your life.
Begin by recognizing there is a problem.
Empaths don’t just sympathize or empathize with other people, they understand deeply what it is like for another person. Walk a miles in my shoes? Thats a given as an empath, when an empath connects with another person they begin to take on their emotions, fears and problems. This can be overwhelming! Don’t wait till you collapse in bed before you make a change. Begin today by scheduling downtime now. Set aside several hours each week to be alone. Meditate, read or just sit without any distractions or responsibilities. If there is a stressful family event coming up it’s okay if you bow out or at least don’t do as much as normal. You deserve time off too. Read on to learn some simple tips you can begin incorporating into you life today to ease the stress.
Click here to read more about empaths and their abilities, gifts and struggles.
Move Your Body
When your inbox number is higher than your step counter there is a problem. It happens, but rather than scolding yourself get up. Walk around your work area, go for a walk at lunch. Take the stairs instead of the evaluator. The more you move the happier your body will be and the stuck, stressful energy will move off you too!
Spend Time By Water
Many people, especially Empaths, find bodies of water calming, and relaxing. Most Empaths and HSP are drawn to oceans, rivers, and lakes especially in times of high stress. If you are feeling overwhelmed, even just sitting quietly for an hour by a body of water or pool can be a great help.
Stop the Negative Self-Talk
As an empath it is easy to become overwhelmed by everyone around you. One way to combat this is positive self talk. Take a moment and write out what you are saying to yourself, Is it positive and helpful or is it cruel and hateful? Would you say this to someone you loved? If not, make it a priority to stop the negative talk. With time and practice you can replace this negative dialogue with positive, loving words. Affirmations, meditation and self care can be a big help in ending negative self talk. Check these videos for affirmations you can easily work into your morning routine.
Skip the Family Drama
If you are feeling drained, overwhelmed or stressed out by your extended family you may need to step away for a break. It's not easy but sometimes we have to for our own peace of mind. Creating boundaries can also help you to stay calmer. Remember you are in control of your life and how much of it you give to others. If you are feeling tired, stressed or overwhelmed it is okay to say, “No” to family functions, holiday events and other celebrations for you own heath.
You have the right to limit your exposure to toxic situation and people. It is up to you to build in alone time and recognize when you are at your limit. Empaths are kind caring people who do so much good in the world, but this cannot happen when they are stressed out and overwhelmed. Decide today to begin taking better care of yourself.
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You can also book a empath discovery session here. Where we can design a personalized plan to help you eliminate the stressor from your life and build in more happiness and joy.
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This is something I have noticed as an Empath. Have you encountered this too?
Some people will hold a grudge, against you for being sensitive and for showing compassion. Some people will be offended that you are not reacting the way they think you should and be very vocal in telling you how wrong you are.
Do they have a reason to feel like they must have been wronged by your compassion? No, but when people are broken everything can be a trigger, even compassion. This really isn't about you, it's more about the other persons view of the world and they're healing journey. It may be difficult, but don't take it personally.
At the end of the day, your best course of action is to let their grudge go. Don’t let this change who you are or how you express yourself in the world.
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“If I am not good to myself, how can I expect anyone else to be good to me?”
― Maya Angelou
"Every day is a new beginning, choose wisely."
-Sarah Parker Thomas
“We are all a work in progress.
And the possibilities are endless.”
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