Hello Dear Friends,
As we move closer to 2020, many of us are looking back at 2019 and the ending of a decade. Planning for the future is important, but so is looking back on the journey. All your hard work has put you in a better place than when this year began. Be thankful and give yourself the credit you deserve.
But now with the holidays, many of you are forced to make uncomfortable decisions as boundaries are tested. While you might feel obligated to take part in family gatherings or attend parties, remember you are allowed to simply say no. This may mean breaking family traditions or routines, but your peace of mind is worth so much more.
You have worked hard to gain ground and put these boundaries in place. I encourage you to stand tall now and not entertain drama or negative energy of any kind this holiday season. While some situations will test your patience and resolve, stand your ground and keep firm on what you allow into your life. Don't overreact, but also don't give in.
Your attention and focus are your greatest powers. Use them wisely and don't allow yourself to be drawn into unnecessary drama or anything that doesn't add value to your life. Protect your energy and you will have a much more pleasant holiday experience and start 2020 from a calmer, more relaxed point-of-view.
If you need support, I'm here. Together we can define these boundaries and build your best, blissful life.
Could you be an empath or a highly sensitive person?
Has anyone ever told you that you are too sensitive or too emotional? Do you feel drained when you spend time around certain folks? Do you seem to experience life differently from other people?
You could very well be a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) or an Empath. Contact me for a free one-on-one evaluation today to find out.
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Despite the large collection of empath resources available to us-including online coaches, therapies, books, websites, courses, & workshops, all aimed at empowering the HSP and empath, our plight remains an ongoing struggle. Many of the customary strategies don’t work because everyone is different. Lets discuss your unique situation and build a plan around it and not use the "cookie cutter" approach.
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In todays busy and stressful society most of us are overwhelmed and feel burned out. This is magnified when you are an empath. This can put a strain on your relationships, your career and of course your health. But the good news is there are few a simple tweaks you can put into your schedule that will make a huge impact on your stress levels. In this post I will share a few simple changes you can begin implementing today to bring more calmness and peace into your life.
Begin by recognizing there is a problem.
Empaths don’t just sympathize or empathize with other people, they understand deeply what it is like for another person. Walk a miles in my shoes? Thats a given as an empath, when an empath connects with another person they begin to take on their emotions, fears and problems. This can be overwhelming! Don’t wait till you collapse in bed before you make a change. Begin today by scheduling downtime now. Set aside several hours each week to be alone. Meditate, read or just sit without any distractions or responsibilities. If there is a stressful family event coming up it’s okay if you bow out or at least don’t do as much as normal. You deserve time off too. Read on to learn some simple tips you can begin incorporating into you life today to ease the stress.
Click here to read more about empaths and their abilities, gifts and struggles.
Move Your Body
When your inbox number is higher than your step counter there is a problem. It happens, but rather than scolding yourself get up. Walk around your work area, go for a walk at lunch. Take the stairs instead of the evaluator. The more you move the happier your body will be and the stuck, stressful energy will move off you too!
Spend Time By Water
Many people, especially Empaths, find bodies of water calming, and relaxing. Most Empaths and HSP are drawn to oceans, rivers, and lakes especially in times of high stress. If you are feeling overwhelmed, even just sitting quietly for an hour by a body of water or pool can be a great help.
Stop the Negative Self-Talk
As an empath it is easy to become overwhelmed by everyone around you. One way to combat this is positive self talk. Take a moment and write out what you are saying to yourself, Is it positive and helpful or is it cruel and hateful? Would you say this to someone you loved? If not, make it a priority to stop the negative talk. With time and practice you can replace this negative dialogue with positive, loving words. Affirmations, meditation and self care can be a big help in ending negative self talk. Check these videos for affirmations you can easily work into your morning routine.
Skip the Family Drama
If you are feeling drained, overwhelmed or stressed out by your extended family you may need to step away for a break. It's not easy but sometimes we have to for our own peace of mind. Creating boundaries can also help you to stay calmer. Remember you are in control of your life and how much of it you give to others. If you are feeling tired, stressed or overwhelmed it is okay to say, “No” to family functions, holiday events and other celebrations for you own heath.
You have the right to limit your exposure to toxic situation and people. It is up to you to build in alone time and recognize when you are at your limit. Empaths are kind caring people who do so much good in the world, but this cannot happen when they are stressed out and overwhelmed. Decide today to begin taking better care of yourself.
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You can also book a empath discovery session here. Where we can design a personalized plan to help you eliminate the stressor from your life and build in more happiness and joy.
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There is, of course more to it than this list, but it does give you an idea of the differences between a HSP and an Empath.
As a note: One isn’t better than the other. They are closely related and have some of the same issues and hurdles. I work with both types of people to help them thrive in a very overwhelming world.
Are you ready to find out more? It is time to make self-care a priority now, book a session here and lets work together to make 2019 your best year!
Do you procrastinate? If the answer is ‘yes', watch for the number of times you tell yourself you “should” be doing what you can’t get motivated to do. According to Transactional Analysis (a theory prevalent in psychology circles during the 1970s) your inner parent is scolding you, which tends to cause either resistance or helplessness.
Focus instead on either promising yourself a reward or finding a way to make what you’re avoiding fun. That’s the way to free your Inner Child… and reclaim your true Adult, the one who feels confident and in control.
I'm currently working on a workshop on this topic (Procrastination) if you are interested leave me a comment or sign up for the mailing list.
Problems with money? It could be a money block or a false idea you have accepted as truth. The good news is, it's easy to dissolve!
Why not set up a free 1/2 hour consultation (not a sales call) and we can discuss. If I feel it is something I can help you with, we can go from there.
What have you got to loose?
Have you ever been on a roll and everything is just easy? Money, love and adventure are free flowing to you and life is easy? But then suddenly BAM! Everything seems to fall apart? You break your phone, get a speeding ticket, lose your purse and suddenly, if that wasn’t enough, you catch a cold?
Everything goes to HELL quickly and it seems as if you can’t catch a break. You know you are supposed to stay positive and upbeat, but there is no way you can make long-term changes when life is crashing down on you.
So you seek help, but no matter how many self help books you read or webinars you attend, nothing is working in your favor! It just feels like life is against you. WTF?!
Why does this always happen?
It’s likely you are suffering from energetic blocks around growth, wealth and abundance.
Chances are good that these blocks are around your money specifically. Most people have energy blocks like this, and if left unresolved they will continue growing roots and expanding for years. These types of blocks could be stopping you from getting your money situation under control; no matter how careful you are or how much you make. These blocks could also be responsible for your self sabotage and taking you further from your wealth goals.
Where do energy blocks come from?
People pick up energy blocks very early in life, even as far back as early childhood. What did your parents think about money? Was it a blessing or was it something to constantly worry over? Parental fear over finances are common causes of these types of blocks and these beliefs are easily passed down. (There is no judgement around this, almost all of this is done unconsciously, generation to generation.)
What are they?
At their core, money blocks are really ideas that we take on unconsciously. We believe them to be true and allow them to shape our relationship with money. They come from our parents and caregivers, friends, teachers and society. For example, have you ever thought: “I’m just not good with money” or “Money is the root of all evil” or “Rich people are unhappy people?” These ideas shape what we believe about ourselves, money and wealth. They impact the choices we make and the life we live. They also define our relationship with all aspects of abundance.
Left unhealed these thoughts become energetic blocks or barriers that stop our natural energy flow. They turn into repeating life lessons until they are removed.
Our interactions in the world are just exchanges of energy, including our thoughts on money. Money blocks are beliefs that get in the way of natural free-flowing energy. When the energy stops flowing, it pushes prosperity away and things have a tendency to become chaotic. You loose your purse, you break your favorite watch, you forget to pay a bill, etc. Think of a boulder in a fast moving stream, the water surges past the block, but the water becomes chaotic around it. Your energy is trying to right itself and push past the block just like this, causing all types of chaos around it.
How do we fix this?
To put it simply, all you have to do is unblock the ki or energy. Once we do, the energy flows freely again and our beliefs easily change. We stop self sabotaging, and are able to see the larger picture. The energy calms down and life flows easily again.
If you want to talk more about energy blocks leave me a comment or email me.
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