I was asked an interesting question last week..One of my coaching clients asked what happens if trauma is not resolved? She was wondering if she could heal her trauma while living in an abusive situation. Her situation, while unique isn’t all that uncommon. We often go from one bad situation to another, because we haven’t healed the trauma from the past.
If the traumatizing situation doesn’t end, the person just keeps getting sicker and sicker, and their nervous system continues to suffer. The trauma takes it toll on the entire body and over time your mental and physical health degrades. There is no healing of trauma until the traumatic stress and the dangerous circumstances end.
So the short answer is no, you cannot fully heal while continuing to live in an abusive situation. The first step to wellness is leaving the situation. No real healing can take place as long as you remain. If you are struggling in an abusive situation then please seek help.
You don’t have to live like this.
Playing the blame game never works.
Blaming people for your problems and the way that your life has turned out never improves your situation. Everything that happens to us is based on choices we make. These choices, even if we are not aware we are making them, are a reflection of what we think. How do you see the world? Is it an exciting adventure ready to be explored or a scary, unforgiving place? What we think about ourselves and how we view the world around us is always tainted by our past.
To live your best life you have to change your circumstances. This will never change if your mindset, (the way you think) remains the same. Solving your problems starts by owning your problems and that's the bases of Shadow Work. If you are ready to stop suffering and start living the life you dream about, let's discuss coaching, Shadow Work and Spiritual Healing today.
Hello Dear Friends,
As we move closer to 2020, many of us are looking back at 2019 and the ending of a decade. Planning for the future is important, but so is looking back on the journey. All your hard work has put you in a better place than when this year began. Be thankful and give yourself the credit you deserve.
But now with the holidays, many of you are forced to make uncomfortable decisions as boundaries are tested. While you might feel obligated to take part in family gatherings or attend parties, remember you are allowed to simply say no. This may mean breaking family traditions or routines, but your peace of mind is worth so much more.
You have worked hard to gain ground and put these boundaries in place. I encourage you to stand tall now and not entertain drama or negative energy of any kind this holiday season. While some situations will test your patience and resolve, stand your ground and keep firm on what you allow into your life. Don't overreact, but also don't give in.
Your attention and focus are your greatest powers. Use them wisely and don't allow yourself to be drawn into unnecessary drama or anything that doesn't add value to your life. Protect your energy and you will have a much more pleasant holiday experience and start 2020 from a calmer, more relaxed point-of-view.
If you need support, I'm here. Together we can define these boundaries and build your best, blissful life.
One of the biggest side effects of an unhealed traumatic childhood is we often stay in situations longer than we should. We falsely believe that the situation will get better, but in truth it always dissolves into something worse.
if you are not happy where you are, begin a journal regarding your situation. Write out whats happening and how you are feeling...after one month of journalling go back and re-read what you wrote. Chances are you are seeing a pattern, not an isolated occurrence.
If you need help navigating this or other issues, I'm here.
What is the Shadow Self?
It is the disowned parts of ourselves, usually developed in early childhood. It is also trauma that we as children, have no way to deal with or heal. Because these parts cannot be healed or eliminated they are repressed and live in our unconscious mind.
These traumas make up the unexamined and rejected parts of our personality. Every wonder why you seem to date the same type of person? Why you cannot get passed something from your past or why you are triggered by seemingly small actions of others? The answers lie in Shadow.
Until we make the effort to heal these parts of ourselves they will subtlety control our decisions and by default our lives.
I'm pleased to announce a new Adult Coloring book of my Mandala designs was released by Serenity Reiki clinic. 36 new design to help you soothe your mind and release anger.
Have fun and heal as you color these mandalas!
Move into a meditative state as you calm your mind by coloring these one-of-a-kind shapes. These hand drawn, Reiki infused mandalas are a powerful tool in your self-care tool box.
Use them to slow down and shift your energy, as you let go angry thoughts and internal conflict. This and the other books are available at Amazon or you can order direct from me. For a limited time pay no shipping in the USA!
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“If I am not good to myself, how can I expect anyone else to be good to me?”
― Maya Angelou
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-Sarah Parker Thomas
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