When Relationships Become less than Beneficial

People come and go in our lives. The relationships we need to cultivate should be beneficial for both parties. How simple is that, right? Except we tend to forget it. Some relationships, like crap jobs, teach us the lesson of what we DO NOT WANT. Some relationships are for growing and building character, just as the right people support and encourage our growth. Some relationships are about learning to set boundaries and letting people go. This is all normal and part of the ongoing growth process.

Even family members are not always intended to stay with us forever. It doesn't make anyone morally “better” or right to stay in a relationship that pulls you down, belittles you or causes you to feel negative about yourself.  Surround yourself with people who lift you up and nurture you. Being with people who really care about you is a liberating and life changing experience, especially if you have never had this kind of encouragement or positive element in your life.

No one is sent by accident… As you grow and change spiritually people will be drawn to you for many lessons. It is always up to you to make a choice to engage with them or not. It really is all right to decline a drama marathon or crisis creator. 

However, even if you do make a choice to take on a drama queen, it doesn't mean you have to keep continuously engaging with them, over and over again. Setting boundaries and limits is a very important lesson. A big revelation in the growth process is recognizing one of the most valuable commodities you possess is your time and focus. (After all remember what we focus on we manifest and ultimately become. Which puts a lot more empathizes on the people we surround ourselves with, yeah?)

If your life isn’t going the way you think it should, or you are less than satisfied with your relationships, step back and take a long look at your life. Are people present that love, honor and uplift you in your life? If not, are people present that do just the opposite? Why would you allow this? Why are you making excuses for others bad behaviors? 

Take a #Bliss Challenge and beginning in the New Year begin “editing” your friends list. This may include your family, co-workers and internet buddies, too. Journal the last experience, conversation or talk you had with each person. Was it a supportive experience or did it leave you feeling used up or negative about yourself? Ask yourself if you really want to continue engaging in lessons with these folks and journal “why”.  Part two of the challenge is to do the same at the beginning of February. Is there any change? If not then you probably need to make some difficult decisions or at least recognize you could be mistakenly standing in your own way and blocking your own, personal growth.

You deserve to be honored for the amazing being you are. Accepting anything else is counterproductive. Why should you settle?

Take a Bliss Challenge and let me know what you experienced, I love to hear from you!
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Love and Light,
Sarah

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