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Are you doing everything you are supposed to and still struggling? Happiness, healthy relationships, a satisfying career, and wealth all seem out of your control? Maybe you are even asking yourself why you're not getting ahead? Are you having difficulty finding opportunities, or could it be you're not grabbing the chances when they come to you?
I work with clients that struggle with these same issues, and the most common reason people fail is that they're engaging in self-defeating behaviors. Could this be a problem for you too?
If you're not finding happiness, engaging in healthy relationships, or building a satisfying career, you might want to consider whether or not you've become your own worst enemy. Often we feel like we have no control over our lives, but in fact, you could be trapped in a self-defeating cycle that keeps you miserable.
How can you tell? Look for these five signs:
You Use the Emergency Exit
Or the "nothing is ever finished" cycle. Do you tend to come close to completing a project only to stop at the last minute? When you feel the need to stop, ask yourself why? Could it be you're afraid to take the next step? Ask yourself what you are worried about? Are you afraid of failure or success? And know that you are not alone; most people are fearful of moving forward and taking chances. For some folks, this is why we sabotage relationships the moment we start to feel close to them or deeply connect with another person. It's also why we throw a monkey wrench in the works when we hear we're being considered for promotion.
Instead, complete your project/task before moving on to something else.
Can't ever seem to get anything done? Deadlines come and go, and still, you can't seem to get motivated? It could mean you don't feel you have the skills you need to finish the task. When we don't feel confident in our abilities, it's natural to put things off, hoping that we will finish them later. The problem is this clarity rarely comes. In truth, we only wind up making ourselves feel worse by missing deadlines.
Instead, ask for help.
You Trust Other People More Than You Trust Yourself
It's essential to ask for help, seek advice, and receive feedback, but you also need to trust your instincts. When we value other's people opinions over our own, to our detriment, we are self-sabotaging. (This is especially true if you have "friendly enemies" in your circle.) If you are allowing other people's opinions to dictate your life, then you are giving away your power and allowing them to determine your life.
Instead, trust your institution.
You're Not Focused On the Right Thing
Are you easily distracted? If you're worried about one project's outcome, it's not uncommon to throw yourself into another. We do this to take our minds off of what worries us. But unfortunately, it also distracts us from what needs to be our primary focus. I see people getting lost in social media and crafting the best business post ever but, sadly, not taking the time to create a product to sell.
Instead, look at the big picture and focus on what's important.
Are you constantly criticizing yourself or using negative self-talk to keep yourself from succeeding? Negative self-talk can stop you from asking someone out on a date, prevent you from sending your resume off for your dream job, or hurt you in so many other ways.
Instead, be your own personal cheerleader and practice positive affirmations.
All of these behaviors can have a seriously detrimental effect on your life. It may take some time to change these behaviors, but working together, I can help you take back control of your life and end self-sabotage.
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When I first began coaching, I had no idea the impact it would have. It was a natural progression from treating people on the Reiki table to offering ongoing support. Clients immediately felt better after a session and wanted to know what else they could do to take control of their health and well-being. As I began listing suggestions, it soon became clear they needed ongoing assistance and guidance. After all, there is an immense body of information in the self-help world, but what actually works? And who is going to help you stay accountable?
I get letters and message like this all the time:
"Thank you for changing my life, Sarah! I was totally stuck, unhappy, and full of self-doubt. I wasn't moving forward and felt like giving up. You helped me go from miserable to living a life I was afraid to even dream of; it all seemed so impossible! You and your program changed my life!" Christina B.
I'm sharing this with you because I am opening up a new group coaching program in June. It is eight weeks' worth of coaching for a fraction of what one-on-one sessions cost. I am doing this because I want to help people experience what Christina did. I want you to thrive and get "unstuck." I want you to feel good again and enjoy life.
This eight-week program will include weekly live group calls with me, audios, recorded meditations, videos, and homework. We will start with the basics, how you can easily navigate a spiritual awakening, lead a more authentic life (and happy life), and from their work towards you finding your life's purpose.
If you have ever considered working with me, this will be a great introduction. The course is eight weeks long, with the information available to you for one full year so that you can go at your own pace with no extra added stress. The group will be small to make sure everyone is heard. I will break down the information into easy-to-digest bites; this will be a safe zone to learn and grow, and you will be surrounded by like-minded people who will add to the group dynamics. I know you can get past what's holding you back and live an inspiring life!
If you want my help, you need to register for this course now. (It will sell out.) Go here to get registered: Group Coaching
I look forward to working with you. Together we can change not only your life but the world!
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I was asked an interesting question last week..One of my coaching clients asked what happens if trauma is not resolved? She was wondering if she could heal her trauma while living in an abusive situation. Her situation, while unique isn’t all that uncommon. We often go from one bad situation to another, because we haven’t healed the trauma from the past.
If the traumatizing situation doesn’t end, the person just keeps getting sicker and sicker, and their nervous system continues to suffer. The trauma takes it toll on the entire body and over time your mental and physical health degrades. There is no healing of trauma until the traumatic stress and the dangerous circumstances end.
So the short answer is no, you cannot fully heal while continuing to live in an abusive situation. The first step to wellness is leaving the situation. No real healing can take place as long as you remain. If you are struggling in an abusive situation then please seek help.
You don’t have to live like this.
What is the Shadow Self?
It is the disowned parts of ourselves, usually developed in early childhood. It is also trauma that we as children, have no way to deal with or heal. Because these parts cannot be healed or eliminated they are repressed and live in our unconscious mind.
These traumas make up the unexamined and rejected parts of our personality. Every wonder why you seem to date the same type of person? Why you cannot get passed something from your past or why you are triggered by seemingly small actions of others? The answers lie in Shadow.
Until we make the effort to heal these parts of ourselves they will subtlety control our decisions and by default our lives.
We often forget that we have choices. If things aren’t working out like you expected or you are unhappy with your current situation, you can always change your path.
I know it seems overly simplified, but we ALWAYS have a choice. We can change our personal path and change our lives.
Whatever situation you are in right now, if it doesn't fill your heart with joy, love, and inspiration, you have the ability to change. It can seem frightening at first, but you can have the life you dream about. Happiness is within your reach.
"My zone of genius is around mentoring, guiding and coaching inspired, creative, conscious and spiritual entrepreneurs and individuals to connect with their deepest desires and values so they can rise with grace. I believe in treating the "whole person" and with simple energetic shifts they can reach their highest potential and serve from a place of inner peace and fulfillment."
“If I am not good to myself, how can I expect anyone else to be good to me?”
― Maya Angelou
"Every day is a new beginning, choose wisely."
-Sarah Parker Thomas
“We are all a work in progress.
And the possibilities are endless.”
Sarah Parker Thomas