Have you ever been in a relationship that was out of balance? It probably began normally, but somewhere along the way, it became all about the other person. Their happiness, their well-being, and their needs had to be met first, and what you wanted or needed didn't seem to matter. But the odd thing was, you stayed awhile or maybe are still in this type of relationship. This could be because of codependency. Codependency is a common issue that can affect anyone, but the good news is that you can overcome it. In this blog post, we'll go over what codependency is, and I will share some practical steps to break free from it and regain control of your life.

​What is Codependency?

Codependency is a complex pattern of behaviors and emotions that often develop in relationships where one person consistently puts the needs of the other before their own. It can manifest in various ways, but some common signs of codependency include:

1. Excessive People-Pleasing: You might find yourself constantly doing things for others, even if it means sacrificing your needs and desires.

2. Difficulty Setting Boundaries: You may struggle with saying "no" and setting healthy boundaries in your relationships, fearing it will upset or disappoint others.

3. Fear of Abandonment: You might go to great lengths to avoid being alone or fear rejection and abandonment by loved ones.

4. Losing Your Identity: Codependency can lead to losing your sense of self as you become overly focused on the needs and wants of others.

Can you beat codependency?

How to Beat Codependency

1. Self-Awareness: The first step is recognizing that you're in a codependent situation. Self-awareness is crucial for any personal growth journey. Take some time to reflect on your behavior and emotions in your relationships. Are you consistently putting others' needs before your own? Are you afraid to be alone? If so, you may have some codependent tendencies.

2. Seek Support: It's essential to reach out for help. This could be in the form of a therapist, counselor, life coach, or a trusted friend or family member. They can provide guidance, encouragement, and a safe space to discuss your feelings and experiences.

3. Establish Boundaries: Learning to set and maintain healthy boundaries is key to overcoming codependency. Practice saying "no" when you need to and respect your limits. It's not selfish to prioritize your well-being.

4. Self-Care: Invest time in self-care activities that promote your physical and emotional health. This could include exercise, meditation, journaling, or pursuing hobbies and interests that make you happy.

5. Boost Self-Esteem: Work on improving your self-esteem by recognizing your worth independent of others' opinions. Self-affirmations, self-compassion, and positive self-talk can help with this.

6. Independence: Focus on reclaiming your independence and personal identity. Reconnect with your interests and values. Rediscover who you are outside of your relationships.

7. Communication: Open, honest, and assertive communication is key. Express your needs, wants, and feelings in a healthy way, without fear of rejection or judgment.

8. Take Small Steps: Overcoming codependency is a process that takes time. Don't rush it. Be patient with yourself and celebrate your progress, no matter how small.

Codependency is a challenging pattern to break, but with self-awareness, and support, you can overcome it. Remember that you deserve happiness and healthy relationships just as much as anyone else. By taking these steps, you can reclaim your independence and build more fulfilling connections with others while maintaining your well-being. Don't be afraid to seek help when needed; it's a sign of strength and a crucial part of the healing process.

I hope you found this mini-guide helpful. If you have questions or need more info. please reach out.
Reiki Blessings,
​Sarah

Hey,
How are you?
August has always been a month of magical moments, filled with laughter and birthday memories for me. Summer is on the way out, but the essence of lazy, carefree days still lingers, creating the perfect time  for self-care, personal healing and energy work. 
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I hope you take time to enjoy this magical month and focus on all the good in your life. Personally, I feel so blessed right now, I'm about to burst at the seams. Thank you for being here and allowing me to walk the journey with you.

Reiki Blessings and Happy August!
​Sarah

Everyone goes through tough times, even if they don't discuss it. Today I wanted to share a few steps you can take to make the journey easier. By integrating these simple practices into your life, you will be better able to cope and navigate life's challenges,

1. Create a Daily Routine: Set aside time each day for journaling, meditation and spiritual practices, even if it's just a few minutes. Consistency is vital for maximizing their benefits.
2. Seek Guidance: Consider working with a spiritual life coach or energy practitioner. Their knowledge and support can deepen your understanding and practice.
3. Community and Support: Engage with like-minded individuals through workshops, online forums, or local spiritual groups. Connecting with others on a similar path can provide valuable insights and encouragement.
4. Be Kind to Yourself: Remember that healing and growth take time. Embrace the journey with patience and self-compassion.

As you navigate through life's challenges, practices such as Reiki, meditation and spiritual work will  guide you towards healing, growth, and a more meaningful existence.

Embrace the journey, because you are more capable than you know.

Reiki Blessings,
​Sarah

I can't believe this month is almost over...Before we know it we will be deep into summer! So much has happened over the last six months that it feels like a year (or three) has passed. We have been especially busy here at SPT/Bliss putting the finishing touches on a new group coaching course as well as some new projects to assist you on your personal healing journey.​

I will be sharing an exciting announcement next week! Be sure to stay tuned and keep an eye out, I can't wait to share the news with you!
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You can sneak a peek here:  https://amzn.to/2QfP6d6 on one new project.


Speak soon,
Sarah

I recently did a live radio interview with Gary at Everything Imaginable, check it out here:

I was asked an interesting question last week..One of my coaching clients asked what happens if trauma is not resolved? She was wondering if she could heal her trauma while living in an abusive situation. Her situation, while unique isn’t all that uncommon. We often go from one bad situation to another, because we haven’t healed the trauma from the past.

 If the traumatizing situation doesn’t end, the person just keeps getting sicker and sicker, and their nervous system continues to suffer. The trauma takes it toll on the entire body and over time your mental and physical health degrades. There is no healing of trauma until the traumatic stress and the dangerous circumstances end. 

So the short answer is no, you cannot fully heal while continuing to live in an abusive situation. The first step to wellness is leaving the situation. No real healing can take place as long as you remain. If you are struggling in an abusive situation then please seek help.
You don’t have to live like this.

Sarah