Have you ever been in a relationship that was out of balance? It probably began normally, but somewhere along the way, it became all about the other person. Their happiness, their well-being, and their needs had to be met first, and what you wanted or needed didn't seem to matter. But the odd thing was, you stayed awhile or maybe are still in this type of relationship. This could be because of codependency. Codependency is a common issue that can affect anyone, but the good news is that you can overcome it. In this blog post, we'll go over what codependency is, and I will share some practical steps to break free from it and regain control of your life.
What is Codependency?
Codependency is a complex pattern of behaviors and emotions that often develop in relationships where one person consistently puts the needs of the other before their own. It can manifest in various ways, but some common signs of codependency include:
1. Excessive People-Pleasing: You might find yourself constantly doing things for others, even if it means sacrificing your needs and desires.
2. Difficulty Setting Boundaries: You may struggle with saying "no" and setting healthy boundaries in your relationships, fearing it will upset or disappoint others.
3. Fear of Abandonment: You might go to great lengths to avoid being alone or fear rejection and abandonment by loved ones.
4. Losing Your Identity: Codependency can lead to losing your sense of self as you become overly focused on the needs and wants of others.
Can you beat codependency?
How to Beat Codependency
1. Self-Awareness: The first step is recognizing that you're in a codependent situation. Self-awareness is crucial for any personal growth journey. Take some time to reflect on your behavior and emotions in your relationships. Are you consistently putting others' needs before your own? Are you afraid to be alone? If so, you may have some codependent tendencies.
2. Seek Support: It's essential to reach out for help. This could be in the form of a therapist, counselor, life coach, or a trusted friend or family member. They can provide guidance, encouragement, and a safe space to discuss your feelings and experiences.
3. Establish Boundaries: Learning to set and maintain healthy boundaries is key to overcoming codependency. Practice saying "no" when you need to and respect your limits. It's not selfish to prioritize your well-being.
4. Self-Care: Invest time in self-care activities that promote your physical and emotional health. This could include exercise, meditation, journaling, or pursuing hobbies and interests that make you happy.
5. Boost Self-Esteem: Work on improving your self-esteem by recognizing your worth independent of others' opinions. Self-affirmations, self-compassion, and positive self-talk can help with this.
6. Independence: Focus on reclaiming your independence and personal identity. Reconnect with your interests and values. Rediscover who you are outside of your relationships.
7. Communication: Open, honest, and assertive communication is key. Express your needs, wants, and feelings in a healthy way, without fear of rejection or judgment.
8. Take Small Steps: Overcoming codependency is a process that takes time. Don't rush it. Be patient with yourself and celebrate your progress, no matter how small.
Codependency is a challenging pattern to break, but with self-awareness, and support, you can overcome it. Remember that you deserve happiness and healthy relationships just as much as anyone else. By taking these steps, you can reclaim your independence and build more fulfilling connections with others while maintaining your well-being. Don't be afraid to seek help when needed; it's a sign of strength and a crucial part of the healing process.
I hope you found this mini-guide helpful. If you have questions or need more info. please reach out.
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I was on the phone with a wonderful, client this past week and I was making her talk about everything she wanted in life, in love, in business, all of the above. And I do mean it when I say "making her" talk about it. 😳
Coaches are good for that- making you have conversations you would normally avoid or runaway from. I could tell I was making her uncomfortable, admitting she wanted “things” and experiences and success. She was finally able to admit she wanted to make lots of money, travel and fall in love and more. She was crying really hard as we cleared those blocks and made room for her dreams to become reality. #goodtimes lol
Why is it so hard to talk about what we truly want?
Because on some level we feel we don’t deserve it. In the beginning when we name our desires and give ourselves permission to admit what we REALLY want something, so many shame-and-fear issues will come forward. Buried deep down inside most of us have a small (or not so small) voice saying we don’t deserve to have the life we secretly want. We are somehow not even allowed to talk about it, much less have it.
But guess what? YOU CAN HAVE THE THINGS YOU WANT. Just as my client can have her dream life, so can you. You are “allowed” to have a full, happy life. An amazing life filled to the bring with adventure, love and success. If you need some support in making this happen or in releasing old, out dated beliefs surrounding worthiness I’m here to help.
Why not book a (free) live call and let’s discuss it. You could be in a very different (and more desirable) spot this time next year. You could be living those dreams….
Trying to heal after a leaving a narcissist relationship?
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If you put as much thought and effort into yourself as you do your ex, think about how far you can get? Your ex doesn’t deserve your love, care or attention… you do.
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I know you have heard this before, but I’m gong to say it again; it is important that you avoid toxic people. I know you want to help everyone and you often see the best in people, but this is a serious warning. It’s not your job to fix, mend or heal everyone that crosses your path. You must set clear boundaries or these people will steal your energy, mess with your mental health and destroy your dreams.
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"My zone of genius is around mentoring, guiding and coaching inspired, creative, conscious and spiritual entrepreneurs and individuals to connect with their deepest desires and values so they can rise with grace. I believe in treating the "whole person" and with simple energetic shifts they can reach their highest potential and serve from a place of inner peace and fulfillment."
“If I am not good to myself, how can I expect anyone else to be good to me?”
― Maya Angelou
"Every day is a new beginning, choose wisely."
-Sarah Parker Thomas
“We are all a work in progress.
And the possibilities are endless.”
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