Grieving and the Holidays

A few tips for making the most of the holidays while grieving.

The holidays can be a very stressful time. 
The holidays are stressful for most people, grieving or not. If you are experiencing grief, loss or depression the holiday season can be a very trying time. Below are a few tips I have found useful in making the most of the holiday season. 

1. Remember everyone grieves differently. NO ONE could or SHOULD tell you how you are supposed to feel. How you feel about the holidays is as individual as you are. For some people it might not even be stressful and thats perfectly fine too.
2. If the holidays are difficult acknowledge your feelings. Your feelings are valid.  Informing others lets them make coping plans, too.
3. Decide what you want to do THIS year. It doesn't mean you will do the same thing NEXT year. But also you DO NOT have to follow tradition, just “because” it was always done this way. 
4. Decide soon if you want to do something special for your loved one. A candle lighting ceremony or make a donation in their name, etc.
5. Set realistic exceptions for yourself. If you do not feel like decorating or cooking then don’t.  
6. Take care of yourself first. Grieving is more than just a mental process. It’s difficult on the body, mind and spirit. Get extra rest, try to eat better and fit in exercise. Why not book a Reiki session too? You know you will better afterwards.
7. Don’t overwhelm yourself. If you need help, ask for it. Daily chores are easier when broken down into small tasks. Ask for assistance with the dishes, laundry or shopping. 

8. Surround yourself with positive people. Surround yourself with people who will inspire you and lift you up this holiday season. If your family get-togethers are stressful gatherings, then pass this year. The world will not end if you or your family do not attend this season.

I hope you found these quick tips useful. The holidays were a terrible time for me after loosing my husband, but time does help.

I would love to hear how other people handle the holiday season. Did you start new traditions or make other changes? Please leave a comment below if you would like to share something.


Reiki blessings,  
Sarah

This was first posted on the Serenity website.
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